Lack of trust exacerbates the loneliness spiral

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Loneliness is a painful feeling. If it persists, it can lead to mental illnesses such as depression or anxiety disorders. Researchers from the Universities of Bonn, Haifa (Israel), and Oldenburg have now discovered how loneliness is associated with reduced trust. This is reflected in changes in the activity and interaction of various brain structures, especially the insular cortex. The results, therefore, provide clues for therapeutic options. They are now published in the journal Advanced Science.

Everyone knows what loneliness feels like. Behind this feeling is the perceived discrepancy of the need for social relationships not being met to the desired degree. As with hunger that wants to be satisfied, feelings of loneliness can also provide the motivation to connect with other people. However, some people are affected by persistent loneliness. Such cases can increase the risk of developing a mental illness, such as depression or anxiety disorders. “One reason for this keenly felt loneliness may be a lack of trust in fellow human beings,” says Dr. Dirk Scheele from the Research Section Medical Psychology at Bonn University Hospital, referring to initial study evidence.

Together with Prof. Dr. Simone G. Shamay-Tsoory from the University of Haifa (Israel) and Prof. Dr. RenĂ© Hurlemann from the University of Oldenburg, Dr. Scheele’s team, therefore, investigated the relationship between trust and loneliness in more detail. Using an online questionnaire, the researchers selected 42 people from 3678 adults who were affected by severe loneliness but did not suffer from a mental illness or were receiving psychotherapy. The control group consisted of 40 people who did not suffer from persistent loneliness. “It was important to us that our findings could be attributed to the loneliness experienced and that any influence of mental illness could be ruled out as far as possible,” explains lead author Jana Lieberz from Scheele’s team.

In the brain scanner: How great is the willingness to share?

Participants first completed tasks in the brain scanner. Among other things, they played a trust game. Here they were given ten euros in start-up capital. Based on portrait photos displayed on a screen, they were asked to decide how much of the money they were willing to share with each of the people shown. They knew that making a profit beyond their start-up capital was only possible if they shared their start-up capital with others. At the same time, however, they had to trust that their gambling partners would not keep the money they had staked for themselves. “Participants with pronounced feelings of loneliness shared less with others than the control group,” Scheele explains. “We interpret that as a lower level of trust.”

The researchers also found processing deviations in brain areas involved in trust formation compared to the control group. This was particularly evident in the anterior insular cortex, which was less active in lonely individuals and did not connect as prominently with other brain areas. “An important function of the insular cortex is to perceive and interpret one’s own body signals, such as the heartbeat,” Lieberz says. “It also helps to correctly interpret other people’s reactions, such as facial expressions or mood — or trustworthiness.”

After the trust game, the experimenters also simulated a standardized conversation situation with the respective participant, which dealt with emotionally positive content: What would you do with a lottery win? What are your hobbies? Afterward, the team asked the participants about their moods. The researchers also collected blood and saliva samples to examine, among other things, an increase in the bonding hormone oxytocin in response to the conversation and measured the distance in centimeters that the subjects maintained from the experimenter.

It was found that those affected by severe loneliness were in a less positive mood after small talk than the control group. Levels of the bonding hormone oxytocin also changed less. Furthermore, lonely people maintained a spatial distance from the experimenter that was about ten centimeters greater than that of those hardly affected by loneliness. “Overall, the results show across tasks that chronic loneliness is associated with reduced trust in fellow human beings,” says Scheele, summarizing the most important finding. “This can mean that interactions with others are experienced as less positive, which makes it harder to connect with others and exacerbates the loneliness spiral.”

Starting points for therapies

The research team also sees these findings as starting points for interventions. “The reduced trust of lonely people could be given greater focus in therapies by making it a topic of discussion and thus making those affected aware of it,” Lieberz adds. It would then also be possible to look at strategies on how affected individuals can strengthen their trust in other people. In a study currently underway at Bonn University Hospital, the researchers, together with colleagues from Haifa and Oldenburg, are investigating whether psychotherapeutic group interventions can reduce these negative mental biases.

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Conscientious Is The Most Valuable Personality Trait To Have, Why Is That?

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Conscientious Is The Most Valuable Personality Trait To Have

Do your friends or peers describe you as meticulous, not too spontaneous, and careful? Is your score on the Big Five personality scale high on conscientiousness?

It might not be a bad thing, after all!

By definition, conscientiousness means “being very careful about what you’re supposed to do before doing something”

Your friends may confuse this peculiar behavior with not being too adventurous and being too careful but it turns out that conscientiousness is one of the traits that can lead you to success.

The Big Five Personality Traits namely; openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeable, and neuroticism or OCEAN, are five major traits that can help define your personality but can they affect your behavior and successes?

Please note that scoring high on conscientiousness is not a bad thing or that you somehow lack the other four traits. It just means that being conscientious is your dominant trait while the other traits may score somewhere in the middle.

What Does It Mean To Be Conscientious?

What Does It Mean To Be Conscientious

Conscientiousness is more than just being too careful and responsible, it’s about being vigilant and thorough in what you choose to do. It’s also one of the most admirable traits when it comes to the Big 5 personality traits.

People who identify with this trait tend to be self-disciplined, systematic, thoughtful, and have the drive to achieve. Naturally, people with conscientiousness do better than others when it comes to building careers, maintaining strong relationships, and being professional.

In recent studies, it was found that conscientious people are more likely to have fewer health-related risks and have higher job and career satisfaction.

Note that no one is born conscientious, you need to cultivate the trait. Developing this trait may take a lot of time, persistence, and smarts.

Characteristics Of Conscientiousness

Characteristics Of Conscientiousness

If you identify as a conscientious person, you’re typically described by your friends as self-disciplined and self-controlled. You are someone who is not only organized and determined but also able to delay gratification just for the sake of long-term progress.

While there are some drawbacks to being conscientious such as you might be tempted to overthink a situation that might not need overthinking or you may be overly rigid and inflexible. You might also struggle with being spontaneous, perfectionism, or even obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Here are some other common characteristics of conscientiousness that you may find useful:

  • Principled
  • Responsible
  • Patient
  • Goal-oriented
  • Achievement-oriented
  • Reliable

People with low conscientiousness are often described as casual, relaxed, or laid-back. They don’t prefer scheduling or detailed planning before doing something. While these people may be described as unreliable and irresponsible, they are also more likely to step out of their comfort zone and respond well to last-minute changes.

How Does Conscientiousness Affect Behavior?

How Does Conscientiousness Affect Behavior

If you’ve scored high in conscientiousness, you’re very likely a dependable and organized person who can control your impulses. In many studies, it is shown that conscientious people have good overall health and show higher productivity than others.

Within this personality trait, some sub-traits can be used to describe your personality:

1. You Are Achievement-Oriented

You are a high achiever if you identify with this personality trait. You are always striving to be perfect in whatever you do and are extremely goal-oriented. While others who score low on conscientiousness tend to be viewed as lazy and are happy with minimal responsibilities.

2. You Are Cautious

You are very careful and consider all facts before you come to a decision. You think through most things thoroughly before acting. You might not be impulsive but more analytical. People with low conscientiousness tend to take risks and are impulsive.

3. You Are Reliable

While a person with low conscientiousness might be viewed as irresponsible, you are viewed as someone with a strong sense of obligation and duty. You honor your word and come through when you make a promise.

4. You Thrive On Schedules

Scattered schedules and disorganized behavior may throw you off as you are someone who thrives on schedules and order. You enjoy list-making and planning before you act. Chaos is something you do not associate with.

5. You Are Self-Disciplined

If you’ve scored high on conscientiousness then you are focused and self-disciplined. You stick to your task despite distractions. Others with low conscientiousness may not be as disciplined when it comes to fulfilling a task.

6. You Are Self-Sufficient

You have confidence in yourself and your skills without being too boastful and egotistical. Your ambitious nature makes sure you see through to the end. Low conscientious people tend to feel inadequate as they believe they have no control over their lives.

Writer’s Thoughts

Understanding conscientiousness and how it affects your behavior may help you know the whys of what you do and how you act but it is not your defining trait. Your personality will have all Big Five personality traits at some level (low, medium, or high). Don’t ignore others in favor of one.

I hope this article helped you understand one aspect of personality traits. If you liked the article, let me know in the comments below or write to us at info@calmsage.com. We’re always here for you!

 

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Mini-Guide: Megalophobia (Fear Of Large Objects)

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Megalophobia

Megalophobia which is a fear of large objects sounds weird but it is a common fear that most people experience. Talking about large objects, they could be anything, like big buildings, cars, trucks, or any other large or big objects. If encountering or thinking about a large object results in intense fear or anxiety within yourself, you might be experiencing Megalophobia (fear of large objects). This condition or fear causes severe nervousness that people start avoiding triggers by taking great measures. It impacts mental health and interferes with the daily routine. It is basically caused by underlying anxiety and fear. However, this situation can be managed with proper diagnosis and treatment. This blog covers everything you want to know about Megalophobia (fear of large objects). So, let’s get started.

Triggers Related To Megalophobia

Triggers related to Megalophobia

There are various things or objects that trigger megalophobia and its related anxiety. Research shows that some people experience it in the presence of large objects while some people experience it when they are in the surroundings of specific triggers. Some common types of triggers related to megalophobia are:

  • Blimps
  • Buildings
  • Airplanes
  • Construction equipment’s
  • Buses
  • Elephants
  • Big trees
  • Hills and mountains
  • Ships
  • Big statues or sculptures
  • Large water bodies
  • Trains
  • Whales
  • Big trucks
  • Big spaces
  • Helicopters
  • Skyscrapers
  • Other large objects or things

Symptoms of Megalophobia

Symptoms of Megalophobia

The major sign or symptom of megalophobia is fear of large objects or things. Additionally, experiencing the fear of any large thing also shows symptoms like:

  • Diarrhea
  • Dizziness
  • Chest pain
  • Anxiety
  • Panic attack
  • Increased heart rate
  • Increased blood flow
  • Nausea
  • Shortness of breath
  • Sweating
  • Shaking or trembling
  • Stress
  • Nervousness
  • Crying

Causes of Megalophobia

As of now, the exact reason behind the triggers of megalophobia is still unknown and research is still going on. However, there could be a number of factors that contribute to the triggers of megalophobia, such as:

1. Intimidating size

Megalophobia (fear of large phobia) is related to objects that are bigger in size. It can be anything like sculpture or animal that does not fit the normal size we generally relate in our life. People who experience megalophobia are unable to process the abnormal size of such species or objects which results in the feeling of fear of the big objects.  Basically, the size awes them and results in anxiety.

2. Exaggerated normal fears

Everyone has a fear and it is completely normal to have a fear at some level for things or objects that seem threatening or overwhelming. For people who experience megalophobia, this fear becomes more intense and severe because it is something different than a normal experience for them.

3. Media

Sometimes media plays an important role in the trigger of such fears. New stories or news that intimidating causes fear. For example, showing news related to gigantic and deadly animals might cause fear in someone who is watching the news. Showing news related to gigantic ships or the death of people who sailed ships at early ages can be really intimidating.

Diagnosis of Megalophobia

Typically, megalophobia is related to underlying anxiety. As of now, there is no specific or underlined diagnosis of this phobia. However, with the help of a trained or certified psychologist, you can get proper help to overcome this issue. A psychologist can help you in diagnosing this phobia with related history and symptoms associated with large objects.

The psychologist can help you in determining the sources of such fears so that negative thoughts related to big objects can be resolved. To overcome this issue, the therapist and you can work together on the past related to this phobia and work towards healing.

Treatment of Megalophobia

Treatment of megalophobia consists of psychotherapy but medications can also help only in severe cases. Below are some of the common and effective treatment types for megalophobia:

1. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

During CBT, the therapist encourages the client to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts so that he/she can walk away from the fear of large objects. To read more about CBT, you may refer to Mini-Guide: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

2. Exposure therapy

Exposure therapy means exposing the client to fear so that the fear can be dissolved without putting the client in any kind of danger. To read more about Exposure therapies, you may refer to Exposure Therapy

Self-Help Tips for Managing Triggers of Megalophobia

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Lawyers say a Pennsylvania county traps people with mental illness in jail indefinitely – The Philadelphia Inquirer

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Reviewing a case at the Delaware County Courthouse on Tuesday morning, President Judge Kevin F. Kelly grew exasperated. The question at hand was whether to release a man whose incarceration Kelly acknowledged was illegal but who had serious mental illness and no treatment lined up.

“This is about as helpful as a rubber crutch,” he finally told the lawyers arguing in front of him. “Either I keep him in jail or I let him go, but he still has no help.”

In the end, Kelly agreed to postpone the decision another week, hoping some help could be found by then.

But left unresolved, the Delaware County Public Defender has argued, is a larger problem: The county has been jailing people with mental illness for alleged offenses resulting from their disabilities — then keeping them in jail for months or even years because county probation and jail mental health staff had not made housing or treatment arrangements, and would not approve alternatives such as homeless shelters.

Those concerns were outlined in a series of filings over the last few weeks seeking immediate release for a half-dozen people whose public defenders say were locked up with no legal basis.

“Jail is not a resource,” First Assistant Defender Lee Awbrey argued at the hearing Tuesday, adding that it’s known to exacerbate mental illness. ”Especially,” she added, “the jail in Delaware County, which is almost constantly in lockdown.”

County probation officials did not respond to questions from The Inquirer last week, and Kelly was unavailable for an interview, according to a spokesperson.

In an interview, Delaware County First Assistant District Attorney Tanner Rouse said his office is not always apprised of who’s detained for alleged probation violations but is working to better track that information.

“These are extremely difficult and oftentimes really sad cases,” he said, adding that a lack of resources in Delaware County and statewide often leaves few options for housing and treatment. “While the person doesn’t mean any harm, we have to recognize there is a distinct possibility of harm coming from their mental illness. So we have to make sure if a person is going to be released that they have a plan in place that will ensure the safety of the community.”

Delaware County is not alone in disproportionately jailing people with mental illness. One U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics national prisoner survey found 44% of people in jail had some mental health history, and more than a quarter was in serious psychological distress.

“In probation, we see this over and over again: So many people who are incarcerated have disabilities. Those disabilities are very rarely taken into account,” said Nyssa Taylor of the American Civil Liberties Union of Pennsylvania.

She said such cases raise numerous legal issues — among them, potential violations of the Americans with Disabilities Act, since schizophrenia is a recognized disability. “The probation department should be working with these people to make sure those who are struggling with a disability have the necessary accommodations to succeed.”

The situation mirrors practices in some other counties, including Montgomery, where a schizophrenic man was killed in jail in 2019 while awaiting a referral to a probation-approved address.

“People were being held indefinitely because they do not have an address … and homeless shelters did not qualify,” said Keisha Hudson, a visiting professor of law at Temple University who was ousted from the Montgomery County defender’s office last year after warning of illegal bail practices there.

“It’s not legal at all. The problem we have is, in a lot of these counties, the courts don’t really think that the case law applies to them.”

In Delaware County, the District Attorney’s Office agreed to immediately release some of the people the defenders said were illegally trapped in jail.

One was Tyler Diamond, 27, whose schizophrenia, depression, and history of substance abuse have kept him cycling in and out of Delaware County’s George W. Hill Correctional Facility for seven years.

The last time he was released, in 2019, he was sent to a halfway house run by GEO, which also holds the contract to run the jails. According to Diamond, once there he was mandated to take the psychotropic medication Seroquel. But the drug caused him to sleep all day, making it impossible to complete the programming required as part of his probation for a 2018 robbery — let alone hold a job so he could secure his own housing.

So Diamond stopped the medication and got a job at a dollar store.

“I graduated from my [outpatient treatment] and I kept going. I was the only person going to AA meetings twice a day. I was really trying to change my life,” Diamond said. “And as soon as probation found out I was not taking my medication, they sent me to jail.”

Court documents say the violations were for failing to comply with halfway house rules, such as by leaving food wrappers in his room and failing to pay court costs. For that, Diamond remained jailed for six months, resentenced for the purported probation violation but stuck waiting for a probation-approved address.

“Everyone is aware he is eligible to be released on July 1st,” Probation Officer Keith Taylor wrote, according to Diamond’s court filing, “however he cannot be released without an address verification (by probation office) and services in place. … [Probation] would not be agreeable to the Salvation Army or any type of homeless shelter.”

He grew so depressed, he said, that he began to think he’d just stay in jail until he reached his maximum sentence — 12 months — then return to homelessness and even crime. “I wanted to die,” he said. “I was thinking, if I get out I’m just going to use again.”

In July, the public defender’s office successfully petitioned to vacate what it argued was his illegal sentence, noting that the Pennsylvania Supreme Court has ruled violations can’t be issued for behaviors that are neither crimes nor breaches of specified probation conditions.

Diamond is now in a treatment program, back on medication, applying for jobs, and, for the first time in months, feeling optimistic.

In other cases, according to court documents, people were jailed for behaviors that appeared to be manifestations of mental illness, or for failing to comply with halfway house rules after being out of jail for just days or weeks.

One woman with mental illness and a brain injury had been detained for six months without a hearing after allegedly violating probation by mailing pieces of glass to her probation officer. Court documents make clear the woman was delusional: She had reported to probation while clutching her mother’s ashes and a cane, professing to have been blinded by police who had stabbed her in the eyes. The DA’s Office opposed her release, arguing that it would not be safe to allow her to return home without a treatment plan; she remains in jail pending further hearings.

On the other hand, prosecutors agreed to drop charges for a schizophrenic man who is 69 and homeless, and who spent most of the last two years jailed for trespassing, successively, at a hospital, then a Wawa, and finally a bench outside the Main Line home. On more than one occasion, he was arrested within a day or two of release, then jailed again pending a competency evaluation, which he repeatedly passed.

By the time charges were dropped, he had already spent more than 300 days in jail without a trial for the misdemeanor offense, in part because he declined to undergo a fifth competency evaluation.

How many others may be jailed under similar circumstances is unclear. The Delaware County Defender declined to comment.

In its filings, the office argued that the response to mental illness must come from the mental health system, not the criminal-legal system.

“Prohibiting behaviors that are hardwired into a person’s brain by nature of a mental disorder is not a condition that is reasonably related to their rehabilitation,” the lawyers argued. And punishing those behaviors with incarceration “is ineffective, cruel and inconsistent with the mission of mental-health supervision.”

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How to overcome sick-day guilt

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It’s the phone call we all dread – letting your employer know you need a day off sick. But when your body is telling you it needs a break, it’s time to listen. So, how do we get past the guilt, to get the rest we need to recuperate?

We all know the feeling; you’ve woken up feeling terrible. You’re too sick to work, but there’s something in the pit of your stomach that stops you from making that call to your boss. You sit there watching the clock – you might even start getting ready to go in or log on – putting off a decision you know you have to make. You don’t want people to think you can’t cope with the job. You feel bad about colleagues having to cover your work, and don’t want to make life more difficult for anyone else. You’re worried that you might be judged for calling in sick, and it’ll affect performance reviews or your chances of that promotion. Then there are the questions we ask ourselves: “If everyone else can cope without taking time off, why can’t I?”

When we’re ill, we often give in to the pressure to carry on working –whether that’s a perceived external pressure, or the expectations and standards we set for ourselves. It’s easy to fall into this trap when we have deadlines to meet, work on commission, or have a team that relies on us. Whether it’s a physical or mental illness, pressure to keep going can make us feel 10 times worse. But it’s time to put that unnecessary guilt in its place – here are four things to help you do just that.

1. Be honest with yourself

I asked life coach Clare Percival how to overcome sick-day guilt. Her thoughts? “I would ask, where does that guilty voice stem from? Is it a parent, a boss, or just a limiting belief that somehow we think we are supposed to be super human rather than listening to our body?”

“Being honest with yourself that you need a break can make you stronger, and healthier, in the long run”

We need to learn to be vulnerable and to show that we’re not OK – even if our inner critic doesn’t like it. But the truth is it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Being honest with yourself that you need a break can make you stronger, and healthier, in the long run. Convincing ourselves we must go into work, that we’re letting people down, that we’re letting ourselves down, avoids focusing on the real issue. Plus, hiding behind a mask can be exhausting – and it’s bound to slip at some point. Clare sums it up: “Listen to your body. It knows what is best, and it is trying to tell you something important.”

2. Reevaluate your goals and workload

If you’re unwell, but believe that a sick day is out of the question because you can’t possibly miss a day of work, it could be time to take a closer look at what’s on your plate. The world shouldn’t stop if you need a day or two to recover, and if it feels like it will, it might even be the level of responsibility on your plate contributing to your poor health.

Ask yourself: is what I want to do really? Will I burn out, or make myself ill trying to achieve it? Am I setting myself up for disappointment if I don’t reach my goal? Or is it a case of realistic goals, but overwhelming myself by trying to achieve too many things all at once? If the answer is yes to any of these, it could be worth reevaluating whether pushing yourself like this is worth it – more often than not, the answer will be no. And if that’s the case, it could be time to speak to your boss, HR, or colleagues about your workload and any support you need. Working until you burn out shouldn’t be a goal or something that should earn anyone praise. Our number one goal should be to stay healthy.

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3. We all struggle

Deep down, everyone struggles for one reason or another, whether they like to admit it or not. Looking like you’re always keeping it together isn’t reality. Everyone has a persona they try to keep up, to an extent. If you live with a chronic illness, a disability, or both, it can feel like sick days come around more than your colleagues, and guilt could be a factor in whether you take that much-needed day off. But it’s important to remember that everyone will have a time when they struggle mentally, physically or both. And when that voice of self-doubt rises up, just consider, would you judge someone else for needing a sick day? Treat yourself with that same compassion you’d show your colleagues.

4. It’s not a sign of weakness

Most of us have worked with an ‘office gossip’. They love to let everyone know how you were off last week, again. These words make us feel ashamed, guilty, and inadequate. But just because you feel unwell, it doesn’t make you weak-minded.

“When you’re not feeling 100%, your inner critic voice kicks in – the negative self-talk that feeds off a poorly you, and has been lying dormant waiting for a moment to come out and play in your mind, and tell you those guilty thoughts,” Clare Percival explains. Taking time off shows you value your health and your colleagues. It’s the responsible thing to do, especially if you’re potentially infectious or your job involves caring for others. So, remember, listening to your mind and body when it needs a breather isn’t just for your own benefit, it’s the most selfless thing you can do.


 

 

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